How To Control Your Aggressive Mood
Find out how to control your aggressive mood and get rid of the anger and resentment that leads to violence.
Getting angry is a normal emotion
Getting angry is a normal emotion. It’s natural to feel anger when you’re unhappy or frustrated by events in your life, and it’s not always bad.
Anger can be healthy if it’s directed at the right person, as long as you choose your battles wisely and know when to hold back on your emotions.
You can control your anger and manage your mood much better
You can control your anger and manage your mood much better.
Anger is a normal emotion, but it’s not always the best thing for you. Anger is helpful when directed toward something that needs to be corrected or changed. It’s also okay to feel angry at someone who has hurt you in some way, as long as you don’t allow this anger to take over other parts of your life by being violent or mean-spirited toward others.
Some people find that they’re more prone to anger than others because they have certain personality traits (like perfectionism), while others may have been exposed early on in life through abuse or neglect by family members or caregivers
Anger doesn’t always mean you’re aggressive
Anger can be a normal emotion. It’s not always aggressive, or even necessarily bad. A person might get angry at someone if they think that person has done something wrong. Or maybe you’re angry because you’re frustrated with your job, but this isn’t necessarily an attack on the world itself—it’s just a reaction to how things are going right now in your life.
Anger is also different from aggression: anger doesn’t mean violence; it just means feeling upset over something (like the fact that someone spilled coffee on your favorite shirt). Aggression does mean violence though; it’s when we lash out at others for whatever reason (for example: because they hurt me).
Anger that comes out of nowhere is called “unwanted” anger
Unwanted anger is the type of anger that comes out of nowhere. It’s a normal emotion and it doesn’t always lead to aggression, but it can be a sign that something needs to be addressed.
For example: You’re at your desk and you get an email from your boss saying she wants you in her office ASAP because she has an important meeting with another employee that afternoon. You feel angry about being interrupted during what should be a relaxing weekend away from work (and then having nothing done about the situation), so instead of just ignoring or blowing off the email as unimportant, you get mad at yourself for being so easily irritated by seemingly insignificant things like this one email! This kind of “unwanted” emotion can happen when there’s some sort of trigger—an event or feeling—that sets off unwanted feelings in us without our conscious awareness (like when we’re tired).
Unwanted anger usually makes the person who’s angry feel bad
Unwanted anger usually makes the person who’s angry feel bad. They may have felt rejected by someone they love, they might be stressed out and unable to sleep, or they may have low self-esteem and think that it’s their fault if this happens. But in reality, there are many other things going on (like depression) that can cause you to get angry at people for no reason at all!
To control your aggressive moods:
- Talk to someone about what bothers you so much—your partner/friend/family member might be able to help figure out why you’re so angry; or maybe even talk about it with a therapist!
- Try taking deep breaths instead of yelling at people who annoy you—this will help lower your blood pressure which will reduce stress levels overall which could help avoid more frequent bouts of anger throughout the day since our bodies react differently when under high levels of stress than when under lower ones.”
If you’re on the receiving end, you probably feel like you don’t have control over your emotions
If you’re on the receiving end, you probably feel like you don’t have control over your emotions. You may feel like your anger is out of control and that no one is able to help or understand why this is happening.
You might even think that there’s something wrong with how angry or sad or frustrated you are feeling—like maybe it’s caused by an illness or depression (which can happen). This can lead to feelings of shame and embarrassment because people often ask us questions about our moods without realizing that it’s not their place.
Angry people often lash out more than they intend to
When you’re angry, it can be tempting to lash out at the person who’s made you angry. But this will only lead to more anger and pain for both of you. Instead of retaliating with an attack of your own, try responding in a calm way instead. For example:
- “That was unnecessary.”
- “I’m sorry that happened.”
- “I’d appreciate it if we could discuss this later.”
If a problem makes you angry, consider solving it without being angry yourself
If you’re angry at someone because of a problem, stop and think about how they might see the situation. What would they want? How can we help them?
You may consult with psychiatrist or consider whether your actions are helping or hurting the person in question. Is there any harm or good that can come from continuing to be angry with them?
It’s also important not to blame someone else for your problems—and especially not as an excuse for being angry at them! If anything, try hard not to make threats or be rude when talking with others about their problems (or even when talking about your own). This will only make things worse for everyone involved: You’ll end up sounding like an unreasonable jerk who doesn’t care about trying anything new; the other person will feel uncomfortable enough watching what happened; and worst yet, no one will ever feel better again because no one wants anyone else feeling ill-tempered all day long.”
The way you think about the situation will strongly affect how you get along with it
This is a simple concept, but one that can have an enormous impact on your behavior and moods. If you think of an angry person as someone who is always angry and never happy, then any time they are in front of you will be stressful for them (and for you). On the other hand, if they’re always smiling and happy—even when they’re not around—you’ll find yourself able to relax around them more easily because their positive energy rubs off on those around them! The same goes for negative situations: If something upsetting happens in your life today and tomorrow morning when getting up from bed everything seems fine again…but then later that afternoon things go back down again…then go ahead and start worrying about what caused this fluctuation!
It takes practice to learn to control your behavior without letting your mood control the situation
Practice makes perfect. The more you practice, the better you get at controlling your mood and behavior. You can also use this method to control your anger and aggression as well in order to prevent them from spiraling out of control.